On Breaking Up and Moving On

Breaking up is never fun. The end of a relationship means the beginning of a period of mourning and healing for both people. If the break up was mutual both people will experience a period of adjustment where they are getting used to no longer being together. If the break up was not mutual the person who ended things may be dealing with guilt and feelings that they may have made a mistake. The person being broken up with will definitely have to adjust, first to being rejected and second to life without somebody they still care for. How do you get through those first few weeks? Here we list eight essential things everybody must do in the early days of a break up to let the healing begin.

1. Avoid the former love. Yes, avoid. No, this isn’t being immature. Seeing your former flame can bring out emotions and may cause you do to or say something you will regret. In the first few weeks the best thing you can do for yourself is not be where you know they will be.
2. Talk out your feelings with close friends. Get everything out so that you won’t hold it inside. Your friends may get sick of hearing you talk about the situation but you need to let out all your feelings and thoughts or they may come back to bite you later.
3. Cry if you want to. It’s OK to cry over a loss. Don’t hold back, let the tears roll just do it in a safe and private place where it is unlikely to get back to your ex. You don’t want your tears to be used as a guilt trip. Their purpose is to cleanse you of any pain not make your lover come back.
4. Let go of mementos. Put away or give away anything and everything that reminds you of the relationship. Hide them out of sight so they will be out of mind until you are able to remember the relationship without longing for it to still be going strong.
5. Don’t slip up and get together with your ex. When you are feeling sad or missing a relationship it can be very easy to fall back in to the arms of your ex but DO NOT DO THIS. This will only set you back and let’s face it, if things ended the relationship wasn’t perfect to begin with so why would you want to rekindle things?
6. Focus on all the things about your ex that drove you crazy, turned you off, or that you just plain found annoying. Think about these things often and replay them in your mind over and over. Dwell on them. It will make you feel better to remember that your former flame was not perfect and that there are things you won’t really miss.
7. Think about the mean, cruel or rude things your ex may have done in your relationship. Really give these things play in your memory. Remind yourself that somebody who truly cared for you would not have done such thoughtless things and tell yourself (over and over) that you are better off without that kind of ego crushing behavior in your life.
8. Maintain a strict no contact policy and stick with it. Don’t pass notes through friends. Don’t make any calls. Stay away from instant messaging or texting on your cell. Just don’t contact your ex until you are totally and completely sure you no longer want to be with him or her. It is the only way.

Mending a broken heart is not easy but it can be done. Just stick to the game plan outlined above and before you know it you’ll be just fine. Good luck!

This was an old speech I used for my Speech class in college, I wanted to share it with you.

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Two Cents Worth: Student - Teacher Relationship

The author starts Two Cents Worth with her personal opinion about Student - Teacher Relationships. All views presented are of the view of the author (Michelle Constantino) and no views are intended to hurt other people, Two Cents Worth is an outlet for information which could be taken accounted for in one's daily experiences or have related to once in their lifetime.           

           A normal student – teacher/professor relationship is seen in the classroom: Teachers facilitate the daily lesson to a group of 40 or more students. Each student take on a minimum of 40 minutes to 1 hour class everyday on a certain subject and they have consultation hours to consult their professors if they do not understand the lesson. After the semester or grade level is over, the closeness of the student & teacher weakens and when they meet in corridors, they just greet each other with “HI’s or HELLO’s”.

          What I’ve described above is a normal view on a student-teacher relationship. Nowadays, there are 2 different views on this kind of relationship apart from it being a part of the academe which was considered as normal by the society: the “parent” relationship and the “lover” relationship.

          The “parent” relationship happens when a student tend to find attention/seek help to a teacher/professor. Because teachers play a “second-parent” role to students, some teachers consider it innate to listen to the problems of their students. They would spend some time talking about “Life” and trying to help the student amidst all their problems. – nothing special, however, this tend to be misunderstood by fellow students when the student/teacher are of opposite sex.

          The second type of relationship that happens between a teacher & a student is the “lover” relationship. The “lover” relationship nowdays happen when the student – teacher are close to each other, of the same age and would find each other attractive. This situation may seem to be odd but it does happen because no one can control what one heart should feels. However, if it should happen, teachers should understand that it is against school’s policy to have a relationship with a student, nevertheless, schools maintain a strong policy to prevent it from happening.

          I do not promote the concept of a student – teacher relationship being “immoral”, my two cents to this is they must learn their grounds in what they do in the academe. The teacher in the relationship should always play “fair”, no special treatment to his or her love. They should keep things private and they should not make it feel for other students that being close to a teacher is bad.

I can talk seriously about this because I was a victim of this kind of talk, I had to endure all the branding that students could ever think of: boyfriend, pet, straw… any brand you can think of. I just had to endure the fact that the teacher was pretty much of a dad to me. So next time you think that you are close to a teacher particularly of the opposite sex with nothing to hide, do not hesitate to get out in the open, do not hide while conversing and make people see you, that way they could realize that this is not another student – teacher relationship in the offing. 

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Two Cents Worth: Introduction

With the hype of Philippine politics especially with the recent rift between President Aquino and CJ Corona, I've decided to use my blog as a way to express opinion regarding the things that happen as they happen. Thus, News Bits Online gives you: TWO CENTS WORTH. 


TWO CENTS WORTH falls under the All about LIFE category. It would revolve around Philippine Politics, Government, Society and other things that the author has her two cents worth. 


Topics that would fall under TWO CENTS WORTH are based on the personal opinion of the author, MICHELLE CONSTANTINO. No views, expressions are written in favor of the other. 

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